Bhubaneswar: Bedroom is always not the place of bed of romance. It can also become a bored-room! Especially, it is true for Indian couples. As per a survey conducted by the leading English magazine India Today, 48 % of Indian husbands do not find their wives as their ideal partners. They search for physical relations outside their marriage.
On the other side, another terrible revelation, according to the report, is that 49 % Indian Wives avoid sex faking a headache.
According to India Today- Nielsen Sex Survey 2011, only 27 per cent couples are very much happy with their sex life. Similarly, 33 per cent wives agree that sex becomes boring after a few years of marriage. About 23 per cent husbands find sex more satisfied outside the marriage. They admit that they enjoy extra marital relationship. More shocking is that, 66 per cent married men watch porn.
The survey also highlights on the global sexual frequencies vis-a-vis India. It found out that 20 per cent Indian couple make love more than once in a week. In 2004, the same survey had recorded this figure as 37 per cent. Similarly, daily sex has dropped from 20 per cent in 2004 to 10 per cent in 2011. The category of never has also increased from 2 per cent to 7 per cent in the said period.
India is the country which has given Kama Sutra to the world. The erotic postures in the sculptures of many Indian temples also portray the attention of the then society towards this act where sex has been seen as an art of life. But, it seems, with time, sex has perhaps lost its lustre due to so many reasons associated with its root in socio-cultural transformation of the society and the modern day life-style. In fact, mobile, Internet, computers, multimedia, social networking sites etc. have taken a lot of attention and time of modern couples and young men and women. A leading cellular company of India has rightly sensed and picked up the point and used it in its recent 3G campaign- 3G-Pe-Busy. Sex is always rated as a major act of physical and emotional satisfaction in conjugal life in India and outside. But ‘India Today Sex Survey 2011’ now gives a different picture altogether. It demonstrates the changing trends in the mindset or attitude of people especially towards sex and life.
When it comes to satisfaction, the survey reveals that couples in smaller towns are more satisfied with their sex life. 74 % in Jaipur, 57% in Ludhiana and 52% in Ahmedabad say that they are always satisfied. Delhi is the most dissatisfied city. 12% couple admit that they are never satisfied after sex. The unhappiness mounts in the age group of 35 to 40, the survey reports. In general, 46% men agree that they are always fulfilled after sex. Similarly, when 39% female say that they are fully happy after sex, about 31% say ‘sometimes’.
India Today in association with Neilsen Company conducted the survey in 11 cities including New Delhi, Kolkata, Mumbai, Ahmedabad, Hyderabad, Chennai, Lucknow, Patna, Jaipur and Ludhiana. The sample size was 5365 out of which 2680 were males and 2685 were females. It covered both single and married respondents between the age group of 18 to 60. The aim of the survey was to capture the changing sexual behavior in the family in India. In particular, it focused on ‘changing norms of marriage, family matters, sexual games and the contrast between private practices and attitudes in public’. The said report is published in the magazine as cover story.
In fact, sex is not limited to physical intimacy between married men and women. In the present day society, it has got interpreted to the life of many, in many ways. Indian society has been debating on the role of sex education and awareness in the physical, psychological and emotional growth of young people. It is advocated that, children of appropriate age should be properly told about what is right and what is wrong. This can save many young kids, especially girls from becoming prey to any sexual abuse. But the moral theory still presents sex as a taboo in Indian families. Hardly any parents dare to talk to their children on this subject.